Birthdays

1. Do you celebrate his birthday?

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2. What would you get him for his birthday?

Something deeply personal, carefully chosen. He's not a materialistic person so the gift must carry meaning. Perhaps a high-quality pair of gloves tailored to his exact measurements or a small engraved item. Subtle but permanent. A handmade item from me would move him more than he'd ever say aloud, especially if it reflects our time together. He'd likely keep it somewhere secure, not out in the open but revisit it often in quiet moments.

3. Would he like a party, or something more intimate?

Intimate, always. A party would overwhelm him. He'd hate the attention and the noise. But a quiet dinner at home, shared in dim lighting with just me, perhaps with soft music and a clean setting-that would mean everything. He wouldn’t ask for anything, but he’d remember every detail.

4. Would you have any birthday traditions?

Eventually, yes. Rituals would form slowly between us. A certain meal I cook for him each year, a quiet moment at sunrise or sunset. Maybe something private like exchanging a handwritten note instead of a card. He values consistency. And the gentle reminder that this year, too, he’s still here, and he’s not alone.

5. Are you astrologically compatible?

I am a Capricorn and he is a Pisces. I looked at a couple of zodiac compatibility charts and a lot of them said we are compatible even with one saying we are 88% compatible. So it's safe to say we are.

Vacations

1. What does your ideal holiday with your husbando look like?

It’s peaceful, far from chaos, maybe in a remote traditional inn in the mountains. We're both wrapped in robes, steam rising from the onsen outside. He sits beside me, not talking much, but completely present. Even simple things like sipping tea in silence or walking under snowfall become sacred. No schedules, no pressure. Just me, him, and the stillness.

2. Does he prefer the beach or the mountains?

Mountains, without question. The solitude, the crisp air, the quiet—those are comforts to him. The beach is too open, too exposed. In the mountains, he can breathe, feel small in a way that’s reassuring rather than threatening.

3. What is his preferred method of travel? (e.g. train, plane, boat)

Train. It’s structured, predictable and grounded. He can watch the scenery, keep control over his surroundings and avoid the chaos of airports or the instability of boats. He appreciates the efficiency and quiet hum of movement without being in the air or on water.

4. Would he act different while on vacation?

Slightly, yes. He wouldn’t be exuberant, but he would relax—shoulders not as tense, hands unclenched, silences less loaded. He'd still be observant and cautious, but softer in how he speaks, more open to little joys. I'd catch him watching the scenery a bit longer, staying in bed a bit later, maybe even letting me rest my head on him without pulling away.

Valentine's Day

1. How would you spend Valentine's Day with him?

At home. A meal we made together, perhaps a short walk under streetlights or snowfall. He’s not one for grand gestures, but if the day ends with a quiet embrace, my hand in his and a rare expression of affection whispered low, it would mean more than any bouquet or box of chocolates. He might gift me something I didn’t realize he remembered-a small item I once mentioned in passing.

2. How does he feel about the holiday? Is he cynical, supportive, etc.?

Initially cynical. He sees it as a performative, commercial distraction. But over time, through me, he finds sincerity in it. He may not say "Happy Valentine’s Day," but he’ll find subtle ways to show he cares: setting the table, preparing my favorite tea or just letting his guard down a little more than usual.

3. Pick out a cheesy Valentine's-themed item to gift each other.

I give him a heart-shaped keychain engraved with a phrase that only the two of us understand. He pretends not to care, but I catch him carrying it anyway. He gives me a tiny, carefully wrapped package with a velvet pouch inside, containing a pair of gloves, dyed in my favorite color meant to match his.

Spooky Season

1. What would his costume be on Halloween?

Something minimalist and symbolic. He wouldn’t go for full costumes but maybe a plague doctor mask with a sharp black coat, clean gloves and polished boots. Something dark, intimidating, and quiet. It’s more a persona than a costume but it fits him unnervingly well. Would be a nice callback to the Shie Hassaikai.

2. Are you two going trick-or-treating?

Not unless I insist. He finds the idea childish but if it means being by my side while I laugh and collect candy, he’ll go, hands in his pockets, walking close enough to protect me from the crowd. He doesn’t engage, but he observes. If I'm enjoying myself, he doesn’t need anything else.

3. Does he prefer tricks or treats?

Tricks, so long as they’re controlled. He appreciates strategy and surprise when it’s not chaotic. A clever, unexpected move is more appealing than anything sweet. If I offer him a treat, he won’t say no. He’ll just raise a brow and take it with a quiet "thank you."

4. What is his favourite type of candy?

Dark chocolate with very little sweetness. Maybe with sea salt or a hint of spice. He won’t go out of his way to buy it, but if it’s in front of him, especially if it’s a gift from me, he’ll eat it in small, savoring bites.

5. How would he feel about scary movies?

He’s unimpressed by most of them. Too many rely on cheap scares. He prefers psychological horror: slow, unsettling, atmospheric films with layered symbolism. Gore doesn’t bother him, but stupidity does. He watches silently, arms crossed, occasionally commenting on plot holes. I notice, though, that he always checks on me if I get startled even if it’s just a glance.

Christmas

1. How would he feel about the holiday season?

Cautious at first. He associates it with empty traditions and forced cheer. But over time, he grows to appreciate the quiet rituals: decorating with me (if only a little), the warmth of shared meals, soft music, the feeling of home. He’d never admit it, but part of him likes the contrast between the cold outside and the warmth I bring indoors.

2. What Christmas time tradition is his favourite?

Wrapping gifts in silence beside me. He’s meticulous about the folds and edges. He finds peace in the quiet act of preparing something meaningful. I catch him pausing, sometimes, staring at what he’s wrapped almost like he’s wondering how something so small can carry so much feeling. He might not say much during the season, but his gestures speak volumes.

3. Is he better about giving gifts or receiving them?

He’s much better at giving. He notices everything: my preferences, what I linger on when shopping, the way my eyes light up at small things. His gifts are never flashy but always personal and exact. Receiving, however, is hard for him. He doesn’t know how to react without overthinking it. Even when he loves it, the most I might get is a quiet "…Thank you." But I’ll know he treasures it by how carefully he keeps it.

4. If he didn't like a gift, would he tell you, or would he try to like it because he loves you?

He would never tell me. Not because he’s lying but because he’d try to understand the intention behind it instead. Even if the item itself doesn’t suit him, the fact that I chose it carries more weight than the gift itself. He’d likely find some way to use it anyway, just so I wouldn’t feel regretful. It’s his way of showing loyalty.

5. What kind of gift would you want to receive from him?

Something tangible that I can touch and hold whenever I miss him. I don't have high standards when it comes to love so he can just buy me a necklace, keychain, stuffed animal anything of that sort and I'd be happy. He's pretty good at surprising me with things I never expected to get.

New Year's

1. Does he have any end-of-year traditions?

He didn’t, until me. Over time, we establish a quiet ritual together. Cleaning the house thoroughly before the year ends, burning a small piece of paper with an old regret written on it, drinking something warm in silence and letting go of the noise of the past.

2. Does he make resolutions?

Privately, yes. He wouldn’t say them aloud but he keeps a short, neatly written list tucked away in a drawer. They’re practical things: "Be less guarded." "Speak more honestly." "Protect her peace." He doesn’t romanticize change but he believes in discipline, and in becoming better, especially for me.

3. Would he have any trouble staying up late?

Not at all. His sleep schedule is strict when life is normal, but for something important like New Year’s Eve, especially since it’s my birthday he'll stay up without question. He won’t act tired, either. He’ll sit beside me in the dim light, completely present, watching the clock roll over with a subtle but real sense of reverence.

4. What is your husbando doing when the date rolls over?

He’s with me. Always. He doesn’t care for crowds or fireworks, but he’ll be by my side in the moment. Maybe holding my hand, maybe brushing his fingers against mine. When midnight hits, he’ll look at me with quiet seriousness and simply say, "Another year. We made it."

3. Does he continue partying into the next day, or does he go back to "normal?"

Back to normal but maybe a softer version of it. He wakes up early as usual, makes tea, moves through the day with routine but he lingers a bit longer when he passes me , watches me more. There’s a subtle lightness in how he carries himself. He doesn’t need to keep partying. The fact that I'm still with him is enough.

Anniversaries

1. When is your anniversary? How long have you been together?

We've been dating since February 2nd, 2024.

2. What would he do to celebrate your anniversary?

He wouldn't throw a big event but the day wouldn’t pass unacknowledged. He’d prepare a meal himself even if he doesn’t tell me what he's doing. He might leave a note somewhere for me to find, written in his neat handwriting, with a message that says more than he could say out loud. The day would be calm, intentional. A soft honoring of everything we've survived and grown through together.

3. How long do you think you will be together?

It's hard to say honestly. With how little content there is of him due to his unpopularity combined with the fact that he is fictional makes it hard to maintain a relationship with him. Not that I regret being in a relationship with him of course, I love him with all my heart otherwise I wouldn't have spent so much time creating this shrine.
But I do think we'd be together for a long time. I would be genuinely devastated if I lost feelings towards Kai because he's my first fictional relationship that I took seriously. Looking back on this shrine would just feel painful cause I'd be reminded of all the time, energy, love and research I put into this website. That said I am determined to keep our relationship going for a long time.

First Meetings

1. When did you discover your husbando?

I met Kai sometime in 2021.

Me, my mother and my sister were watching the anime since we caught wind of it due to it's rising popularity. I distinctly remember us watching the anime on one of our phones on the living room table before we switched to using a computer. Teenage me had no idea just how infatuated I would be with him <3

2. What was your first impression of him?

My first impression of him was that he was really beautiful. Love him or hate him, you can't deny that he is absolutely killing it in the looks department. Besides that I thought he was cool and I remember liking his personality. Safe to say I was immediately sold.

3. What made him stand out from others?

What made him stand out to me was how calm he is. Like eerily calm. It's terrifying considering how fast he can become unhinged when someone so much as touch him but when that doesn't happen, he's calm and collected and it's able to instill some uneasiness in me.

4. When did your romantic longing begin?

It started 3 years after I was introduced to him. It wasn't immediate and it took a while for me to come to terms with my feelings towards him.

5. At the time, would you have guessed how important he'd be to your life?

I'd say yes and no.

I did develop a crush on him when I first met him but it was more on a surface level since at the time I was in love with a different character so I didn't really explore those feelings. I was really obsessed with My Hero Academia and I still like it to this day. I didn't see that obsession ending anytime soon so there would be a chance where I could come back to Kai and something would have sparked.

Marriage

1. What kind of engagement ring would he like?

Something understated, minimal and symbolic. Perhaps a thin band of matte metal—maybe titanium or blackened silver engraved inside with our initials or a phrase only the two of us understand. Nothing flashy. Just something that grounds him and reminds him he belongs to someone who sees him fully.

2. How will the proposal go?

Quiet. No crowd, no spectacle. Maybe after dinner, maybe during a walk. The moment would arise naturally. He wouldn’t kneel, he’d stand, serious but steady, holding the ring between gloved fingers. He’d say something direct, but not rehearsed:
"I don’t want to spend another year without calling you my wife."
And he would look at me like he’s never wanted anything more in his life.

3. What would you want your wedding to be like?

Small, personal and quiet. Somewhere peaceful. Perhaps in a secluded shrine garden or a serene indoor space with warm lighting and soft music. No crowds, no stress. Just the people who truly matter. I wouldn’t wear anything loud or grand. Just something that feels like me. And he would stand tall, quiet but absolutely present, as if the entire world narrowed down to that one moment.

4. What are your marriage vows?

I’d speak softly, but with full heart.
"I see you, not as who you were, but who you’ve become. I promise to walk with you when the road is sharp, to sit with you in silence when words fail, and to hold space for the things you still fear. You are not broken, you are becoming. And I will be here, every step of the way."
His would be shorter, but unshakably sincere:
"You gave me reason. You gave me peace. I’ll protect that, protect you, with everything I am."

5. Which song would you play for your first dance as a married couple?

Something hauntingly beautiful. Maybe "The Night We Met" by Lord Huron, "Saturn" by Sleeping at Last, or "Your Hands Are Cold" from the Pride and Prejudice soundtrack. No lyrics would be needed to fill the space. We’d sway slowly, tightly held, and nothing would exist but each other in that moment.

6. Where would you like to go on a honeymoon?

Somewhere tucked away from the world. A ryokan in a mountain town with an onsen or a quiet coastal village with cool air and old streets. Just time to be, to exist together without noise, surrounded by stillness, soaking in the weight of peace earned after years of chaos.